Cross dressing, transvestism, transsexualism, autogynephilia, and their wide array of familial conditions all begin with one person realizing they have this "condition" which sets them apart from "normal" people. Reaching the conclusion that they are not "normal", they may decide that they are a "freak" or "pervert". For a wide variety of reasons, our feelings are defined, by society at large, as "abnormal" and "wrong". I say this is wrong, and that transgenderism itself is merely something that makes me different from another person with no "right" or "wrong" involved. Some people have brown eyes, some have blue eyes, and my eyes are frequently bloodshot. Are any of these people wrong? No. Are they different? Yes. I don't see how my mode of dress (under general conditions) or how I see myself is anyone's concern.
It was then my prayer and hope that someone coming to terms with their transgenderism would search out information on the subject. I hope there are people who stumble across my sites and find themselves thinking Good heavens! This was written by a conservative Christian cross dresser just like me!!!
If this ever happens to anyone, then the purpose of this blog has been served. I wish this blog could do more, but it is housed in a cold, impersonal, world wide web with no human interaction, and that is the next big step for anyone coping with transgenderism -- you need to meet face to face with other transgendered people.
Meeting other transgendered people face to face can ease the loneliness we all have felt in those early days. You'll be meeting new people who share common interests that you have been unable to discuss with your buddies at work (like makeup techniques). You'll meet people who share common problems that you might be experiencing. You might discover where exactly you fit into the gender spectrum. I myself came to terms with my transgenderism long before the internet, so I know personally the importance of meeting others.
The internet is a pretty good place to start these days when looking for support groups. Try Googling "crossdress support groups" or something similar. Keep away from obvious porno sites or sites that just don't seem legit. I haven't had any personal experience with Tri-Ess, but they are a real, nationwide, support group for cross dressers and their families. This assures you there is nothing X-rated going on.
Another option (you could use the internet or stop by personally for this one) is your local gay and lesbian center. They frequently have info on local transgender groups.
Once you have selected a group, give them a call. You will probably be invited to meet with a couple of their members at a public place (a mall or a restaurant) where you can check each other out. Most transgender groups respect their members privacy and work towards providing a safe and secure environment.
Once you have been accepted by a group, give yourself a big pat on the back, as this is a major accomplishment in the life of any cross dresser. This can be very beneficial to you, your family, and the group.
One important item I always like to add at this point is this reminder: It is always okay to say "no". If you decide you are not compatible with a group, it is always okay to politely decline their invitation. If you are not comfortable with the group's surroundings, it is always okay to politely decline their invitation. Meeting other transgenders is suppose to be a good thing, and it is not a good thing if you feel pressured to do something you don't want to do.
Cyber surfing is fun, but nothing beats the feel of real surf and sand. Now if only I looked as good in a real bikini as I do in my web surfing bikini....
Kelli
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